Couples counseling while dating
Alternatively, we might be so fearful of getting hurt, betrayed or rejected, that we exit stage left just as the play gets going. Do you plunge into the deep end, only to find that the water is way too cold? Getting overly involved too soon is a big red flag.
If fear of commitment is an obstacle, better to work out your patterns (or schemas) in therapy than in your relationships. If you do it, then you need to pace yourself, and be more considerate of the other person, who you are probably leading on. Not being honest about your needs: Pretending everything is OK can work for only so long.
Patience and restraint are required here, even though you may feel pressed for time. Modern society imposes so many requirements and expectations on what makes for a “good catch,” and that makes it hard to sort through whether someone would be a good choice for us.
We don’t want to “settle,” and the quest for the perfect mate can cause us to overlook or undervalue a truly good partner.
Assertiveness is not to be confused with being bossy or demanding.
Being tactful and direct is the quickest path to relationship success. Sacrificing too much to get the relationship: If you find that you are doing things you would not otherwise do to get someone’s attention, like bending over backwards and injuring your spine in the process, then you are entering the land of the doormats.
Often people tend to do this if there is a problem with low self-esteem.
Being anxious is a mood killer, and will not make you attractive to a potential mate. Try to tap into your self-confidence and trust that if the relationship is meant to work out, it will. Ignoring red flags: If someone doesn’t show up when you’re supposed to meet, that’s a red flag.
If they don’t let you call them at home, yep, red flag. Of course, there are more subtle warnings that one may be tempted to overlook, especially if one is eager for the relationship to work out.Our programs have been proven to be effective – in fact, we’ve helped more than 5,000 people improve their relationships.