Dating and waiting to reconnect

10-Mar-2020 13:44

These moments steadily change relationships over time, as a trickle of water shapes the bedrock as it travels.

Small positive moments are create the strong bond of connection that happy couples savor.

“Not going to happen,” she said, and started to get ready for bed. Once again there is no right or wrong, but Sara too missed a chance to connect. Sara says she’s worried about an upcoming dinner with David’s mom, and David dismisses her worry. They each have to let go of excuses, stop waiting for the other person to change, and learn to show up in a different way.

David let’s Sara know that he had a rough day, and she says, “well at least you got a lunch break.” David’s too tired to watch a movie. If these moments are in the majority, couples like David and Sara are likely to feel that they’re drifting apart. A path to reconnection Sara and David’s experience shows a drifting apart that happens in not only marriages, but also with friends, colleagues, and family.

Marriage researcher John Gottman found something similar – that taking a few moments to connect with your partner many times every day is essential in building close relationships. David gets a last minute phone call at work, and makes it home at PM.

The sense of a shared journey comes from how you say goodbye in the morning, whether you’re home for dinner when you say you’ll be, the tone of your voice when you’re frustrated. Even so, it’s the sum of all those simple actions over the hours and days of your relationship that bring about the feelings of love and commitment. He heads into another room to answer a few last minute emails before sitting down at the table at . None of these choices are “right,” and what he did was not “wrong.” However, he did miss an opportunity to show love and support. Later that evening David told Sara he was tired of long work hours.

It cost 3 million to design the spacecraft, million to launch it, and million to operate it once it was in flight.

Everything worked well until it finally reached its destination…and was torn apart by atmospheric pressure. The problem turned out to be a small arithmetic error.

What makes relationships strong, she argues, is not big acts of passion, but rather the “micro-moments of warmth and connection” that happen every hour of every day.Each small choice can help nudge you along the path to connection and love.

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