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All of this to cater to an emotionally immature, headstrong, confused young man.I was a good kid who made poor choices—at the time they were exciting and forward-thinking choices.
By the time I was 22, I had only known being the girlfriend to an older man, and moved another 1,000 miles to be with another older man, 13 years my senior.At the time I would have been furious had they tried to stop me. What they couldn’t have known was that for as mature and adventurous as I thought I was, no amount of growth or maturity can escape the eclipsing influence of an older man.Girls who grow up in this kind of relationship may never know who they might have been had they been left alone, or with a peer.When I moved away from home with my boyfriend, I went to college, fell into a deep depression, made no friends, and was homesick for my family.
While I did well in school—pursuing a women’s studies degree—I was completely unaware that, even while steeped in feminist theory, the choices I made were his alone.Despite her own understanding of her emotional maturity, a young woman will always be aware that she is with an older man, and that allows her the benefit of a of maturity, but one that exists only in the context of her relationship.